Active Relaxation - The
Neglected Art by: Graham Smith
Stress
Stress is a serious business. The subject is often in the
news: we know that it causes the loss of more working days than
physical illness and can lead to serious conditions of the
heart and other organs. Stress is taken so seriously these days
that employers have a legal duty of care towards their
employees.
The media put far less emphasis on the natural antidote to
stress: relaxation. It might be useful to remind ourselves what
relaxation actually means. Far from merely being the absence of
tension, relaxing actually requires a positive act of will.
Just as a composer writes rests - indicating silence - as
carefully as the notes played by musicians, so we need to
decide when to relax and how to do so. Just think of the
expression 'To compose yourself'.
Techniques that help
We know of many techniques and disciplines, some of them
very ancient, that help us to relax. Meditation has been
described as 'Increasing the distance between thoughts', a way
of emptying the mind of its usual chatter, regret, worry and
aspiration. Yoga can help us to achieve a similar inner calm
through focusing on the body and how it breathes. In both
cases, the emphasis is actively on focusing our attention on
the here and now, rather than reflecting on the past or
thinking ahead.
As with any other conscious decision, we need to focus on
what we are doing if we want to succeed - and here, for many of
us, lies the difficulty. If we want to benefit from these
disciplines, not only do we need to endure the slow process of
learning new techniques that feel strange and unfamiliar before
enjoying the benefits, we also have to overcome an instinctive
objection from our own bodies.
What tension does
The trouble is that when we are experiencing stress we
become tense: our muscles tighten and adrenaline and cortisol
flow through our systems, making it even harder to relax. Even
sitting in a quiet darkened room doesn’t guarantee success – if
your mind is buzzing you’ll feel over stimulated. It's easy to
understand why we seek easier, more instant ways to calm down.
That's why we sometimes confuse relaxation with distraction -
especially in a time when so many distractions are
available.
What does or doesn’t relax us
'I feel stressed out tonight. Let's just relax in front of
the TV.' Unfortunately, most television programmes are designed
to engage us by arousing our interest in some way. The sound
tracks are especially effective in stimulating us emotionally,
so that the net result of our attempts to 'switch off' turn out
to be merely 'changing channels' with our attention. We swap
one set of stimuli for another - and we have even less control
over the content than when we are wrestling with all the
details of our own over-busy lives.
The active choice
So: relaxation is an active choice, but it can seem too
difficult and time-consuming to learn how to use the techniques
that work. How can we actively choose to relax easily and
effectively? William Congreve wrote ‘Music hath charms to
soothe the savage breast, to soften rocks, or bend a knotted
oak.’ and throughout history gentle music has been a favourite
way to change the way we feel. This is because the vibrations
that reach our ears do more than just please us as they cause
our own internal rhythms, like heartbeat and brain activity, to
synchronise with the music.
If you have ever tried turning off the sound track of a
scary movie you know how flat it can seem with only pictures to
keep the mood going. Anyone who has seen what happens to baby
boomers at a party when someone plays a Rolling Stones record
has experienced the power of music to move people.
Type of music that relaxes
Naturally, the result depends on the type of music being
played. A growing number of composers are choosing to focus
mainly on the effect their music has on the listener. In the
1960s a series of 'mood music' albums appeared, followed in the
1970s by British artist Brian Eno's invention of the term
'ambient music' to describe the subtle, mood-invoking albums he
created. The emphasis in this type of music is on the listener,
not the artist ~ a very different approach from most
productions. My own experience is relevant here as I spent more
than twenty five years doing my best to capture the audience's
attention as a session musician, performer and bandleader
before getting involved with hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic
Programming as a way of helping people to live the kind of
lives they really want.
New role
It was while exploring how to combine music with these ways
of helping people that I realised the difference in emphasis:
in my new musical role I was no longer centre stage ~ in fact,
if the listener was aware of me then I wasn't doing my job. It
surprised me how much more difficult it can be to produce music
so subtle that the listener is largely unaware of it, yet so
effective that it relaxes him or her every time.
Self treatment
As I researched what had already been done I found a
fascinating range of different techniques, all contributing to
the power of gentle music to soothe and calm us. These
approaches can be combined to create truly effective musical
solutions to the everyday problems caused by stress. This kind
of self-treatment is a welcome alternative to pharmaceuticals,
being very effective and extremely safe. Some hospitals have
found that when they play the right kind of music their
pain-killing medication bill goes down, in some cases to half
its former level.
In the 1960s, a popular idea was that music could change the
world. For us as individuals, that now seems to be true – at
least on a personal level.
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About The Author
Graham Smith is a musician, writer, coach
and therapist. His composition Calmtime is a
relaxation CD for mother and baby, available at
www.calmtime.com. He
and his partner Daphne Nancholas are
currently working on the next album. You can
read reviews, testimonials and sound sample
on the site. You can learn more at www.smithandfriends.co.uk.
As a session musician he has recorded or
performed with Eric Clapton, Harry Nilsson,
Cat Stevens, Bob Weir, Al Stewart and many
other artists.
graham@calmtime.com
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