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Building Your Self-Confidence at
Work
Many people wish they felt more secure about their abilities on
the job. In other words, they're looking for increased
self-confidence when it comes to performing the work, dealing
with coworkers, and handling tough situations. If you're one of
these people, you're not alone. What can you do to feel more
self-assured about your job?
First, remember that you are not your job. That is, if you make
a mistake at work, this does not mean that you are stupid,
worthless, or that you're in the wrong position. It's all too
easy to take mistakes personally, seeing them as a reflection
of your true person rather than for what it is: a mistake. Even
though it may not always appear so, everyone makes mistakes
from time to time. The best way to deal with a mistake is to
own up to it right away and present a solution. This shows that
you are honest, and by presenting ways to fix the problem, your
boss can send you on your way to deal with the issue. Acting
honestly and straightforwardly is best for you--you'll feel
better about yourself--and best for the company (which again
will help you feel better).
Another common issue is feeling insecure when it comes to
coworkers. Many people feel that they do not fit in, are unsure
how to handle conflict, or have an overbearing coworker or boss
that they don't know how to communicate with. Any of these
feelings can wear at your self-esteem. You may feel you have
nothing to offer the group, whether socially or on projects,
you avoid conflict, and may allow others to step on you. If
socialization is a problem, it will require you to step out of
your comfort zone a bit. This does not mean you need to jump
right in with a large company gathering; rather, take it slow
by opening conversations with one or two coworkers. Chances are
you'll have something in common. Asking questions about the
other person is always a great way to go; just avoid questions
with simple yes or no answers.
When dealing with conflict resolution and difficult employees,
learning some proven communication techniques may be necessary.
Consider attending a course on conflict resolution and dealing
with difficult people. In the meantime, remember that the
overbearing person likely has a lot of insecurities as well,
and these are what cause the behavior. In the midst of
conflict, do your best to avoid being pulled into argumentative
situations. Don't reward the other person's behavior by getting
upset or immediately backing down. If necessary, say you'll
continue the conversation when everyone has had a chance to
cool down. Dealing with negative coworkers is never fun. Try
and remember that your self worth is not dependent on the
coworker's approval, even if that person is your boss.
It could be you're feeling unsure about your skills. This one
is pretty easy--learn more! Many companies offer continuing
education options, will pay for schooling, or offer
professional development in house. Whatever your employer
offers, take advantage. If your company does not have this
option, find some good books on the subject. Ask your
colleagues for suggestions, or if you're a member of any type
of professional group, seek advice there as well. Many of your
peers will have good suggestions on what's worth looking
into.
Finally, give yourself some challenges. One great way to build
your self confidence at work is to take on a special project or
extra work. If you choose something you feel passionate about
or something in your specialty area, you can show yourself and
your colleagues that you are able to produce results. Even if
you fail, you're showing initiative and willingness by taking
on special projects. Knowing that you put yourself out there,
rather than sitting on the sidelines, can be a great confidence
booster. And the same can be said for when it goes well.
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